As a mama, I will be the first to address that finding time for ourselves is extremely difficult and more than likely at the bottom of our to-do list. And we are doing a disservice to ourselves, mamas. Day in and day out, we cater to our families’ needs and pour into our kids, but when are cups are empty we are crashing and burning.

Having an “A” type personality I live by list and organization and planning and all of those things, however, I have +3 kids ranging from ages 10 to 6 months and those kids are completely loveable chaos and don’t care about my dumb need for structure. My house is at an all-time tantrum, teething, preteen mess, and it is exhausting and utterly draining.

The other day I told my fiancé that I didn’t think the kids wanted to see me happy, and while at the time I was making a joke…. It’s kinda true.

So to take initiative on my happiness, on my mental health, and to refill my cup – Self Care Days. I dedicate a few days a month for myself and plan something that I like to do (remember to type A personality) to pour into myself and to take the time to cater to me, my wants, and most importantly my needs.

What is Self Care?

Self-care refers to a deliberate and conscious practice of taking actions that prioritize and nurture your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. It involves recognizing your own needs and taking steps to ensure your health and happiness.

Self-care encompasses a wide range of activities, habits, and attitudes that promote self-renewal, reduce stress, and enhance overall quality of life.

These activities can vary greatly from person to person, and they can include things like getting enough sleep, eating nutritious foods, exercising regularly, engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness, setting boundaries, and seeking professional help when needed.

The key is to make these practices a consistent part of your routine, allowing you to recharge, maintain balance, and build resilience against life’s challenges.

Essentials for Your Self Care

1. Prioritize Sleep: Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night to recharge your body and mind.
2. Healthy Eating: Fuel your body with a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats.
3. Stay Active: Engage in regular physical activity that you enjoy, whether it’s walking, yoga, or any other form of exercise.
4. Practice Mindfulness: Start meditating, deep breathing, or doing mindfulness exercises to reduce stress and increase self-awareness.
5. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no and establish boundaries to prevent overcommitting and burning out.
6. Connect with Others: Maintain meaningful relationships and spend time with friends and family who uplift you.
7. Unplug: Take breaks from socials media and screens and to reduce digital overload and improve your mental clarity.
8. Self-Reflect: Spend time journaling or reflecting on your emotions, goals, and progress regularly.
9. Get Outdoors: Spend time in nature to refresh your mind and connect with the natural world.
10. Learn to Say Yes to Yourself: Make time for activities that bring you joy and align with your passions.

Easy Ways to Promote Self Care:

• Do your nails or go get a manicure and pedicure
• Set the mood and soak in the tub (candles, musics, bubbles, wine 😉)
• Take a trip to the library
• Go shopping (Retail therapy is my fav!)
• Sleep, sleep, sleep
• Give yourself an at-home facial or
• Grab coffee with a girl friend (kid free of course)
• Go on dates both alone and with your partner
• Write in a journal
• Go for a long walk outside
• Workout
• Read a book
• Get a massage
• Mediate or do some yoga
• Invest into your hobby

Self can also be promoted daily in different ways, such as:

• Saying “No”
• Taking a step back
• Setting boundaries
• Asking for help
• Putting yourself first

Ultimately, self-care is an ongoing commitment to yourself, recognizing that taking care of your own well-being is not only beneficial for you but also positively impacts your interactions with others and your ability to navigate the world with a sense of vitality and purpose.

Self-care doesn’t have to be planned out days either, just 15-20 minutes a day set aside can be beneficial.

So Busy Mamas, don’t forget to take the much-needed time for yourself to decompress, relax, and pour into yourself. We’re the best mama when we are the best version of ourselves.

Lastly, if you are struggling with facing challenges that are affecting your well-being don’t hesitate to seek support from therapists or counselors.

XOXO – A Busy Mama